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My favorite line is the opening one - "I get a little bit vicious, but that's why you love me."

Sometimes I really miss my old life! (But for the most part, I'm really very happy these days.)

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This photograph was taken shortly after I started working as a professional dominatrix. I came upon it recently, and although it is certainly not the sexiest photo ever taken of me, it makes me smile to remember what it was like to be a brand-new dominatrix!

The leather garter belt I'm wearing in this photo (you know the one - with the laces in back!) is the very first piece of serious fetish clothing I ever purchased. Sure, I had plenty of vinyl, but no latex or leather. I still remember going to Stormy Leather, slipping into the leather garter belt and just feeling amazingly sexy and powerful.

Now that I'm retired, I'm inevitably looking back on my dominatrix days through rose-colored glasses. I miss planning, then delivering fantastic sessions. I miss putting on an evening gown and full makeup at 11 AM. And, of course, I miss my favorite clients.

But, my career change has certainly been good for me. I do enjoy getting a predictable paycheck (with quite a nice raise). And, although I haven't needed them yet, it's reassuring to have health benefits.

At least I've got about a million pictures to remind me of my fun past!

I'm heading to Burning Man in a few days! After incorporating the fetish clothes I kept at The Gates and the fetish clothes I kept at home, I found I had too much clothing! (Yes, some will say that there's no such thing as "too much fetish clothing", but I really don't need TWO short shiny miniskirts.) And... that left me with a easy supply of sexy clothes to turn into fabulous outfits/costumes!

I'll post a few pictures when I get back...

I still remember my very first session. I was utterly terrified. I was ready a good half hour before the client was scheduled to come, and I spent a good part of that time alternating between peeking out the window and checking my clothes and makeup. When the doorbell rang, I took a deep breath... and my adventure as a professional dominatrix began.

Yesterday, I stopped by The Gates and picked up my clothes, toys and makeup. When I got home and unpacked, I cried while slowly going over every item that I'd kept stored at The Gates. I put on my favorite session dress, lovingly polished my thigh high boots, and smiled while going through the assorted gifts I'd gotten over the years.

It seems that my time at The Gates has come to an end. And, if you're reading this, I owe you an apology. I never meant to fade away quietly... my intention was to end my career with a bang.

But, after graduating and finding myself a fabulous job, I found it much too difficult to find the balance in my life to enable me to continue working at The Gates. I'd love to continue, but the stakes are now much too high. Although I personally don't feel that being a professional dominatrix makes me immoral (and hopefully YOU agree), I know that not everyone feels that way.

So, I'm sad to announce that my days of playing professionally are over. I'll still check my email from time to time, scribble some of my kinky thoughts in this blog, show up at BAGG occasionally, and strut my sexy self around at the Folsom Street fair.

Thanks for all the fond memories!

Goodbye.

Well... How having a "real" job changes everything. I didn't realize it'd be so hard to find a balance between work and playtime.

Here's the deal: I'm not sure what's going to happen. How's that for an answer?

I miss playing at The Gates an awful lot! But, I don't miss the no-shows to appointments, and people who come in to see me because I look hot in my pictures and want to do things I don't offer, and I certainly don' t miss the people who show up 45 minutes late for their appointment.

But, I miss the fun! I miss the excitement of putting on a sexy dress and heels, then turning a man into putty. I miss watching men tremble when I torment them.

Currently, I'm thinking that I'll let things settle down in my life just a bit more. Then, perhaps, I'll return to The Gates one day every six weeks or so. I'd much rather be a part-time dominatrix than a retired one!

I'll be available at The Gates on Saturday, March 3rd from 10-5.

I thought I was good at playful mocking, cruel teasing, and creative torment.

But, this shows me that there are always new levels...

(Maybe safe for work. Maybe not. Depends on the climate of your particular office.)

Happy Valentine's Day....

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After sending Puppy two teasing notes, he finally received the real key in the mail on Saturday (a few days shy of a week after I locked the padlock to his balls).

I was tempted to keep it longer, but I had the very legitimate fear that I would misplace the key in my move. I can't really think of many things worse than being responsible for someone having to get a padlock cut off their balls. That's just a bit more sadistic than I like to play.

You might've noticed that I changed the format of my blog a bit. What's up with the "part-time pro-domme" bit?

Well... Although I do play quite a bit in my personal life, I am only at The Gates one day a month or so. (Though, REGULAR clients are always free to email me to see if I can come in on a different day. But, I only see new clients on my scheduled day. Don't even bother to ask/beg/plead for me to see you any other day.) So, although I am a full-time kinky person, I am a part-time pro-domme. And, alliteration is amusing!

Yep, that last letter to Puppy also contained just a penny and yet another teasing note! Another letter is going out today...

Also, I'm going to have limited email access for the next week. If you write me, don't expect a prompt reply!

I received a charming email from Puppy updating me on the condition of his balls... And, it seems I did manage to fool him by mailing him a penny instead of the key! In his words:

"Wow! You really fooled me with that mailing today! I thought sure it was the key when I reached into the mail box. It was my envelope and it felt like a key inside. You are wonderfully and ingeniously cruel! And I love it!
So far the only problem has been restless sleep at night from being so erotically turned on by having my balls locked up. It's like being in a low intensity session with you that just goes on and on, 24 hours a day."

Hmmm... With all that in mind, I might just want to keep the keys a little longer.

Well, I'm sure it's no surprise to most of you that the letter I mailed yesterday contained a penny (for that sense of verisimilitude) and a teasing note. (I figure that, by now, Puppy has opened it, so I'm not ruining the surprise.)

Another letter went out in the mail today. Was it the key? Another teasing note? I'll let you know tomorrow.

The lock has been on for more than 48 hours now. I'm rather curious how long one CAN wear a padlock around one's balls before it begins to chafe.

Well, I put a letter in the mail to Puppy earlier today (if you have no idea what I'm talking about, read my previous post first)...

Does it contain a key?

Does it contain a teasing note?

Stay tuned: I'll keep you all posted on how long Puppy has to wear the padlock. So far it's been about 30 hours... and I imagine it's starting to feel rather heavy.

Well, yesterday was a fantastic day at The Gates. Most of my sessions were 1.5 or 2 hours, which is my favorite, and every session was simply delightful.

My day started out by playing with Puppy (this is, of course, not his real name). Prior to our session, he told me that he had the entire day free, so I spent some time imagining how I could leave a lasting impact so that he would think of me all day long.

Puppy has been a long-time client of mine and I frequently encourage him to tell me his fantasies and ideas for sessions. Of course, I always reserve the right to take his ideas one or two steps further than he suggests. So, it wasn't surprising to me when, in negotiation, he pulled out a padlock and suggested that I lock it to his balls, keep both of the keys, and mail one back to him at an appropriate time (decided by me).

Since this fit so perfectly into my plan for long-distance control, I readily agreed. He already tested the lock for a 48 hour period and found it to be fairly comfortable, so I have a rough guideline of how long he'll be able to tolerate it for. I'm going to put something in the mail to him today. It might contain a key, or it might simply be a teasing note telling him he'll have to wait longer.

So, we began the session with a harsh caning and a handful of mean cuts from the singletail. When I thought I had him properly overwhelmed, I got him down on his knees, put his funnel hood on his head (it's a latex hood, with a funnel that feeds directly into the mouth) and "forced" him to drink some wine.

After that, I took advantage of his overwhelmed state to treat him to a striptease... with a plastic bag over his head. The only rule was - he could have the bag come off whenever he wanted - but at that point, the striptease would end. Oh yes, I do like having such simple ways to toy with men.

(And, yes, I have Puppy's permission to write about the session. I promise to not write about anyone without their permission. That would just be mean and unethical, without being sexy or sadistic.)

The primary purpose of this blog is for me to attract clients who have interests closely aligned with my own. You see, when I was brand-new to domination, I would take almost any session and try to make it work. Even though I didn't really enjoy extreme humiliation (and other things), I would give it a shot and inevitably deliver a less-than-ideal session.

However, I grew to realize that I was a much, much better dominatrix when I was doing things that I actually enjoyed. Yes, it seems simple, doesn't it? In retrospect, I can't believe that I didn't figure that out that sooner. But, I learned a valuable lesson, and now I put a great deal of effort into presenting a very accurate picture of what I do, and I frequently let people know (hopefully before we meet) if we just don't match.

But, it's more than simply comparing a list of interests. You have to spend some time considering what you really want. For instance, would you enjoy playing with a distant, aloof, stern dominatrix who never smiles, or would you rather play with a strict, but playful, sadistic, but sensual, dominatrix who occasionally laughs? (And, if you don't know which one of those _I_ am, you'd better do some more research!)

Because... when I stop having fun, then this becomes a job, not a release. I want to enjoy every session and never feel like I'm simply going through the motions.

So, your job is to figure out what you want and if we match (and, we are absolutely not a match if you want heavy humiliation and strap-on play, but are willing to do without just because you think I have an amazing ass). And, my job is to present myself as accurately and honestly as possible.

With all that in mind, I'm going to be changing the focus of this blog a bit. No, don't worry, I'll still post sexy pictures from time to time. But, I'm going to try to move away from advertising myself (although that tease and denial post sure did seem to be popular with everyone!), and move to a format where I write more about fun sessions (with permission from my playthings, of course), and delve further into the psychology of BDSM.

Tease and Denial

I like dressing up in shiny latex and tight leather as much as any dominatrix... But, that doesn't mean I can't occasionally slip on some fabulously fluffy lingerie.

In fact, I find lingerie to be perfect for tease and denial sessions. I love the power behind wearing a very sexy outfit and making a man desire me... then informing him of the simple fact that he can never, ever have me. And, of course, to rub it in, I'll have to undress, revealing my beauty....

I'll slowly remove my clothing, perhaps even doing a bit of a striptease...

Maybe I'll tell you stories about the intense and amazing sex I have... then remind you that I'd never have sex with YOU.

And, by the end, you'll be incredibly aroused while I laugh at you and mock your desire. Oh yes, it's wonderful to have such easy ways to control men.

This video is worth watching. I never knew that Snow White was so sexy... I absolutely need a Snow White costume now! I certainly have the long dark hair to complete the look.

The video is also found here if Google Video is more to your liking, but it's a bit blurry.

Since we're on the subject, let me tell you some of my feelings about music. I recently had a conversation with a friend about what type of music I like to play when I'm topping people. She said, "Well, why do you need to consider what they like? You're the top, right?"

I replied, "It's complicated." And it is.

If I played music that I love, but my session-mates hated, it would be distracting for them. And, if my playmates were distracted, it would be less fun to torment and toy with them. Also, the music has to be noticeable, but not TOO noticeable. I'm the center of attention, not the stereo.

So, with all that in mind, I re-did my playlist today and created a nice mix of music that's pleasing, sensual, and just right for fun sessions.

Executive Dungeon

There is a fabulous new playroom available at The Gates. We call it the "Executive Dungeon" and it is truly wonderful. With shiny, latex covered walls, a full selection of wicked toys, and an elegant layout, it's become my new favorite playspace!

Don't get me wrong, I still like the Worship Room for roleplays, boot/foot worship and other types of scenarios, but the Executive Dungeon has the best piece of bondage equipment that I've ever seen.

Sonny Black Dungeon equipment makes a spectacular bondage/spanking horse. I really, really want one of my very own in blue or black to take home with me. It's mind-bogglingly functional and simply... fun. I've done several sessions on it and every time I play in that room I come up with a delightful new way to quickly and decoratively tie someone to it!

I do, on occasion, like to engage in intricate and inescapable bondage. I'm actually rather good at knots and effective restraints. But, tight and decorative rope bondage takes a very long period of time. So, unless I'm playing with a serious bondage-fetishist, I prefer to spend a fairly short amount of time getting them trussed up.

First time?

I really enjoy playing with novices, but sometimes it can be difficult when they don't know "the rules". So, if you've never been to a dominatrix before, I highly recommend you read this post!

Here's my advice for you to have a memorable and wonderful first session:

1. Do your research! Go to www.sf-redbook.com or www.theeroticreview.com and read the reviews. One bad review doesn't mean anything, but repeated negative reviews (written by different people) are significant.

2. Do more research! Read her website/blog/ad thoroughly.

3. Spend some time thinking about what you want to have happen during the session. Write it down and make it realistic. Being kidnapped by four latex-clad ladies is not realistic for a first session. Remember: not all dommes offer the same exact services. It's not a bad idea to check to make sure the things you want are offered before coming in for a session.

4. Send a polite, non-explicit email or call during her phone hours if you have any questions. The Gates answers their phones between 9:30 am - 10:00 pm.

5. Make an appointment. At The Gates, we only take same-day appointments from new clients. So, call in the morning of the day you want to come in. The receptionist will have you call back to "confirm" about an hour before your session. If you decide that this was all a bad idea, then CALL and cancel the appointment. I promise that the receptionist will be grateful that you called and not yell at you.

6. Come in for the session on time! Don't come early. Call if you have to be late. Bring your list of realistic activities. You'll have a chance to talk with the dominatrix before the session and it's a great time to discuss your desires and fears. Bring the exact donation with you in cash, or expect to leave the excess amount as a tip. It's best to pre-count, put the money in a plain white envelope, and place it on the table during the negotiation stage. Do NOT try to haggle the donation!

7. During the session, if you absolutely hate something that's happening, it's OK to pause and politely tell the dominatrix. She might be a sadist, but that doesn't mean she wants you to be bored, uncomfortable or irritated. But, try to not "backseat top". Relax and enjoy, without constantly saying, "Mistress, wouldn't you like to be spanking me now? Mistress, don't you want to paddle me?"

8. After the session, talk about what worked for you and what didn't. If you had a great time and you intend to come back, you really should consider leaving a tip. Anything from $10 and up is acceptable. You can hand her the tip, or simply leave it on a table in the room.

9. If you decide to write a review, many dommes prefer that you ask their permission first. That's optional, in my opinion, but absolutely do NOT mention any personal information that they might have told you. For instance, do NOT say, "Adriana is so great, she's smart because she's a student at..."

10. For more tips, go to www.bigdoggie.net/guides/clienttips.shtml Some are relevant for seeing a pro-domme, some aren't, but none of these tips will get you into any trouble.

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I just simply LOVE this advertisement!

I really can't get enough of looking at the picture OR reading the text.

It feels silly to be so entranced by an advertisement, but... well, I just can't help it!

Today I purchased....

A lovely pair of thigh high boots!

I've been so busy lately that I thought I deserved a treat, so I splurged on a nice patent leather set of zippered boots.... I can't wait to wear them out - or for a fun boot worship session!

Want to see them? Well, I'll be back at The Gates in late-November (22nd or 26th) and I'll resume a more regular schedule in December.

Since I can be VERY productive when I'm procrastinating, I found a new photohosting service! That means I'll be posting sexy photos again soon... but you don't care, because just read my blog for my charming, funny words, right? Right?

*smile*

If you have ever had a fantasy about the police or women with guns, I strongly recommend that you visit the website below.

http://www.voguevanity.it/cont/010fas/photo/default.asp

If you're at work, it might be a good idea to turn off your speakers.

I'm excited about getting to The Gates on Sunday... I find that I begin to miss playing when I haven't been there in a few weeks. It's going to be difficult for me to adjust to my more limited schedule. I greatly wish that I had enough time to be there at least once a week, but it's just not going to be possible for the next few months. Although, I am happy to report that I am finding a great deal of satisfaction in being so close to graduating and I simply adore my part-time job (which is in the field to which I'll be graduating).

So, let me again repeat myself to end the rumors: I'm not planning on retiring when I graduate. I have every intention of continuing to see my favorite regulars (and hopefully, occasional interesting new playthings).

I do know it's been hard to make an appointment with me, and I appreciate all the emails I've received to help me make plans. And, if you want to see me but are unable to get an appointment, please feel free to email me and ask me to recommend someone. I'd be happy to do so.

Yes, I'm not on the schedule much in September.

No, I'm not retiring.

Trust me, when I DO decide it's time to hang up my thigh high boots and put my latex into storage, I will make a HUGE fuss about it. After all, what type of girl do you think I am? I'm certainly NOT one who will fade quietly away... I'll go out with a bang!

Why am I on the schedule so infrequently? Well, while I'm certainly still enjoying my time at The Gates, I'm juggling many other things right now. I'm in my final semester of school, I have a job (at a place I hope to work post-graduation), AND a busy social life!

So, unfortunately, that doesn't leave me with all that much time for kinky fun (at The Gates, at least). But, I'll be there about every other week. Sometimes once a week.

Well, it appears that Photobucket (my photohosting service) has deemed several of my photographs as "questionable". Now, I can certainly understand why they decided a few photos that I'd snapped during a quite enjoyable, intense CBT session were "questionable" (although these WERE kept entirely private and never posted publicly), but one of the pictures they deleted was a shoe advertisement that appeared in several magazines!

So, I'm shopping for a new photohosting service.... perhaps I'll find one with a slightly more reasonable definition of "questionable". I'd appreciate recommendations.

Subtle domination

There's a great deal of appeal of working up a sweat while giving someone a long, hard flogging, spanking a naughty slave till my hand is sore, or skillfully putting a squirming plaything in restrictive bondage. But then... there's a certain power from reclining on the couch, and merely pushing a button to make a person gasp with pain.

I find a great deal of excitement in simple, subtle methods of control. For instance, a few days ago I went out to dinner with a friend of mine who confessed that he was wearing a CB 3000. For those of you unfamiliar with the device, it's a plastic chastity apparatus that causes pain (from constriction) when the wearer gets an erection. This is what it looks like:



Additionally, my friend mentioned that he had attached a spacer, with spikes, for added discomfort during erections.



Now, I was quite fascinated by this, and I began to tell him sexy and interesting stories about my sex life and fantasies... He attentively listened for several minutes, then suddenly jumped and gasped. The poor boy had become aroused from hearing my stories!

I was quite delighted by this subtle method of inflicting pain, and I "mercilessly" continued telling him stories. He became flushed and looked simultaneously uncomfortable and intrigued... I was quite pleased that I could cause pain simply by telling sexy stories! It was a wonderfully sexy, simple way to exert control. All in all, a quite enjoyable evening!

Leather, latex and lingerie...

What's sexy?

Leather? Leather is certainly one of my long time favorites. The way it smells... the way it feels... Wearing my thigh high boots certainly makes me feel like a powerful, dominant goddess. Yes, leather is sexy.

Latex? It's just like a shiny second skin, and I adore "forcing" submissives to kiss my lovely latex covered ass. Latex is absolutely sexy....

Lingerie? I once would have stated that lingerie is not overly sexy. But, my attitudes have changed. I've begun to believe in the power of the feminine - and there really isn't anything much more feminine than a woman wearing a lacy bustier.

Being dominant is more than about wearing a leather corset and thigh high boots and ordering men around. It's about using my beautiful female body to seduce men into submission. It's about using my voice, my hair, and my smile to lure men into being my willing slaves.

No, I'm not going to stop wearing leather and latex, but I certainly AM going to start wearing more lace. In fact, I recently purchased a fairly large quantity of sexy, lacy bustiers, merrywidows and corset tops. Perhaps you'll get to see me in one of them soon....

On your knees....




It's been two weeks since I've played and I'm looking forward to going back to The Gates on Friday. I'm excited about slipping into a sexy outfit and feeling the power that comes with being a beautiful, strong woman. I want to sit in a chair and decide exactly how to torment and tease the naked man kneeling before me. I long to have my lovely feet worshipped and to rub my smooth stocking-covered legs against a delighted plaything.

Oh, yes... Taking time off always makes playing so much more fun!

Our receptionist is quite organized and very rarely makes mistakes. However, when mistakes do happen, they're hard to fix. For instance, this morning she called me up to tell me that she had accidentally booked a session for me on Thursday (I'm only available Fridays - and one Sunday this month). Since she doesn't have any way to get ahold of the person (and he never emailed me), he's going to be quite disappointed on Thursday. So, if you ARE the person who booked for Thursday, email me - And, for everyone else, PLEASE send me an email before prebooking appointments!

Let's review the multiple reasons why you should email me before coming in:

1. It will help you avoid disappointment. I'll let you know if we're not a good match and recommend someone who is.
2. I might have a fabulous outfit just right for the type of session you desire at home.
3. It'll give us a chance to discuss the session and give me time to come up with fun ideas.
4. Because it makes me happy.

OK? I do believe this will be my last post on the subject. I'll resume posting information about my kinky desires and sexy pictures.

Last week, before I even got to The Gates, I knew exactly what my day was going to be like. Therefore, before leaving my house, I went through my wardrobe and toy chest, and took out a few of my favorite implements along with an appropriately sexy outfit. And, I had a simply splendid day.

Why am I telling you this?

I'm encouraging you to email me before pre-booking appointments! Even if you've seen me before, it's very nice to be able to plan ahead so I can rummage through the fetish wardrobe/toy chest that I keep at home. And, it's just fabulous to be able to plan my day in advance. So, it's simple! Pre-book, email me telling the date and time, and give me a rough idea of what type of session you'd like to have. Then, I just might bring in some wicked toy that I love to wield, or some lovely outfit just right for our scene. If you haven't been to The Gates before, and therefore aren't able to pre-book, you should still write me and tell me of your intent to come in.

Our new playspace is really turning out to be quite lovely. So far, we have three fabulous rooms finished and two in progress. My personal favorite is the "Worship Room". It's a well-equipped room with a slightly softer feel than traditional dungeons. Yet, it has a decorative and very useful bondage cross, along with some wonderfully wicked toys. There's a plush couch perfect for a whip-wielding Mistress to recline upon while a desperate-to-please slave may worship her feet and legs.

We also have a lovely downstairs dungeon that's a little stricter in feel. The walls are covered in shiny latex and there are an abundance of mirrors. This room includes our bondage cage and horse - and it certainly has a more traditional dungeon feel.

Next, we have a charming role-play room. I recommend this room for anyone seeking a very role-play intensive session. There's a desk, just right for bending people over for a harsh disciplinary caning. And, of course, this room includes a chair just right for giving over-the-knee spankings.

The boudoir is still in progress, but it's well on its way to becoming a plush, lady-like bedroom - just right for any domestic discipline scenes. Perhaps you peaked out of the closet to spy on me changing.... If I caught you, I'd certainly have to pull you over my knee on the bed and punish you for your naughty ways.

There will also be another dungeon-style room, with some elaborate bondage equipment. This room will probably transition into an elegant dungeon, similar to the one we had downstairs in our old house. When this room is completed, I do believe it will surpass the Worship Room as my favorite room in the house.

Which room should you book for your session? Well, it's charming and sweet when people say, "Whichever room Adriana desires" when booking the session. However, if I'm not there to decide, then the ideal room for us might be booked in my absence. So, the burden of deciding is upon you! I recommend the "Worship Room" for almost all types of sessions. But, if you want a stricter, harsher room, then ask for the Downstairs Dungeon. The boudoir is still a bit unfinished, but is fantastic (of course) for any domestic discipline scenes. And, the role-play room is great for office/school themed roleplays.

I'm delighted to announce that The Gates has moved into a much larger, more elegant house! The new location is simply beautiful and I'm looking forward to having the increased space. There is still some work being done in the house, but it's fairly quiet and I strive to keep my sessions free from disruptions. After we get completely settled, I'll take some pictures of the rooms and post them here.
In this period of transition, it's especially important to be punctual for all sessions. We work incredibly hard to schedule people's arrivals and departures to avoid having anyone run into each other on our porch, but our efforts are ruined when people arrive 15 minutes early. So, if you're running early (or late), simply give us a call.
Come see us in our new location!

I'm caught up on my email!

If you have written me and not received a response, you should be aware that I get a fairly large quantity of email. As such, I do not respond to people who:

1) Ask me questions that may easily be found on my website.
2) Sound like they are just re-telling me their fantasy without any intent of sessioning.
3) Are not respectful.
4) Blatantly ask for illegal activities. (You've heard it a million times, but it bears repeating: Professional Domination is not prostitution.)

I try to reply to all polite inquiries, so if I missed your email and it didn't fall into any of the above categories, please do re-send it to me.

Foot Worship...

There really is nothing like having my feet worshipped by a skilled submissive. A gentle tongue slid between my toes can make me shiver with delight... Strong hands can simultaneously arouse AND relax me... And, of course, the feel of my toes being correctly sucked is indescribable.

Lately, I've had the pleasure of training a few submissives to correctly admire my feet. With my crop in hand, I've turned a few lackluster foot massages into truly wonderful experiences.

And, in the same vein... I do love having my legs worshipped... Skilled submissives can delight me with a few well-placed caresses or kisses. (Hint, hint: I especially like gentle kisses at the back of my knee.)

In other news, I'm back from all my holiday travels and will get to work replying to emails over the past few days!

I'm taking a few weeks off for finals - I'll be back December 11th.

But... so you don't forget about me, I'll periodically post pictures taken during a rather enjoyable session!

I'm sure you'd much rather read about my kinky life then to be bored with my ramblings about midterms and finals, but... look! I was procrastinating and now my blog looks MUCH better. I just need to change the links, and figure out why my profile information insists on being at the bottom, rather than the top, and actually ADD some information to my profile. Right now, it's pretty boring. I'm not at all boring, so... clearly it doesn't represent me very well.

Yes, I'm still busy with midterms, and I desperately wish I was reading _anything_ besides my textbooks. What would I like to be reading now?

-The Ground Beneath Her Feet, Salman Rushdie.

Yah, I realize that Salman Rushdie was once very controversial, but that's not why you should read this book. It's not smut, it's not about BDSM (hey, Mistresses need to escape from BDSM sometime, y'know), it's not even all that sexy (unless you're turned on by articulate writing, like me). It's just... a great book. Here's an excerpt:

Suppose that it's only when you dare to let go that your real life begins? When you're whirling free of the mother ship, when you cut your ropes, slip your chain, step off the map, go absent without leave, scram, vamoose, whatever: suppose that it's then, and only then, that you're actually free to act! To lead the life nobody tells you how to live, or when, or why... Suppose you've got to go through the feeling of being lost, into the chaos and beyond: you've got to accept the loneliness, the wild panic of losing your moorings, the vertiginous terror of the horizon spinning round and round like the edge of a coin tossed in the air.

Huh. Maybe I was lying about this book not being about BDSM... That paragraph sure makes me think of taking a blindfolded submissive and torturing them in various ways till they feel completely overwhelmed and disoriented.

I've been up since 7 AM, which is very early for me! See, I SHOULD be studying for approaching tests, but I WANT to be reading smut. So, since I don't have the time to read... I'm posting online. About smut! Err... I mean, erotica.

Books I recommend (and would like to be reading right now):

-Carrie's Story by Molly Weatherfield
A lovely BDSM tale of a young girl in her first BDSM relationship. Includes some very sexy scenes and perked my interest in pony play. Includes some nice psychological bits, and is just a generally sexy read.

-The Ages of Lulu by Almudena Grandes
A simply great book. Very powerful. Quite explicit. Contains a few BDSM elements, and there's an amazingly hot bondage scene.

-The Velderet by Cecilia Tan
Inventive. A fantastic genre-bending novel. Combines sci-fi, BDSM, and erotica skillfully and creates a refreshingly different, very sexy book.

OK. It's time to get back to reading my NOT-so-sexy textbooks. *sigh*

E-mail

I enjoy getting to know prospective clients over email before they come in for a session. However, I do get a large quantity of emails that I consider to be insincere, from people who I believe have no intention to come see me, but want to live out part of their fantasy. These people are easily identified by their promises of large amounts of money ("I give you tribute of $10,500"), insistence on telling me their (very detailed and long) fantasies, or by asking me multitudes of very specific questions. Fantasies are complex, so several paragraphs are fine. Three pages are not.

So, how do you convince me that you're sincere? Do a bit of research before writing and only ask me questions about things that I don't specifically mention. Paraphrase. It's not necessary to tell me every little detail about your fantasy of being captured by Amazon women. Just give me the basics. Well, don't just write and say, "Pantyboy seeks nipple torture." Ummm... give me detailed basics. OK? And, please remember to not type in all capital letters.

A good email includes: your name, basic interests, if you're a submissive, switch and/or a masochist, and a question or two. Additionally, if you decide to come in and see me but don't have any questions, I love exchanging a few emails first to get a good idea of your interests before we meet.

I respond to most emails, but may not respond if:

• Your email accidentally gets into my junk mail folder. Please use an easily identifiable subject line like: session, session information, or Adriana.
• You ask me very detailed questions, and continue asking them even after I give you an answer.
• You ask for activities that I do not get into (strap on play, sex, brown showers).
  
  Pop quiz!
  
  1. Mistress Adriana enjoys getting three page long emails with highly detailed descriptions of fantasy acts. She especially enjoys getting these when there are pictures of your penis attached. (T or F)
  2. Mistress Adriana likes dark chocolate. (T or F)
  3. Since Adriana doesn't like very long emails, it must be OK to send her an email that only says, "You are beautiful. I want you to step on my balls." (T or F)
  4. Mistress Adriana is a dominatrix because she is a man-hating lesbian. (T or F) 5. Sometimes, Adriana gets busy and several days pass before she checks her email. (T or F)
  
  Answers:
  1. F 2. T 3. F 4. F 5. T
  
  

BDSM 101

What is BDSM? It stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism, but what does that all really mean? If you enjoy being restrained, does that mean that you also like pain? If you enjoy being spanked, are you a masochist?

Plenty of people have written their thoughts on the matter, but I'm going to throw my opinion into the mix. I believe that, basically, everyone is different. That's it. There are plenty of BDSM how-to guides out there, and there's a wealth of information to be found on the internet, but... what BDSM means to one person does not have to be the same as what BDSM means to YOU.

You may be submissive without being a masochist. You can want me to hurt you, but not long to kiss my feet. You can crave discipline, even if you don't like pain. Hell, it's fine if you just want to experience the physical sensations of BDSM without any domination or submission. You just need to figure out what you like... and what you don't, without falling into the trap of thinking that since you like following orders and serving a beautiful woman, you MUST also want to be beaten.

Now, you may be wondering... what does BDSM mean to the lovely Mistress Adriana?

Well, I (like everyone else) am horribly complex. I began my journey into BDSM as a submissive. As time passed, I realized that I was a switch, and I began working at The Gates. There, I discovered my sadistic side. Now, what am I? In a nutshell, I'm a playful, compassionate, occasionally sadistic woman who enjoys power exchange. I still switch on occasion, and I especially enjoy roleplay sessions where I start out in a submissive role, then take control and exact "revenge". As a top, I'm not an ice queen, bitch, or Goddess. Basically, I just like having fun. And, topping people in creative and cruel ways is LOTS of fun.

Tonight...

The kind organizers of Slick have asked me and a few of my colleagues to spend a little time in the dungeon at their Back To School event. So, I'm putting on a pair of glasses, tossing my long hair back in a bun, getting out a long ruler.... and I'll be disciplining naughty students between 11-12.

http://www.clubslick.com/

Did you know that it's HARD to find glasses without any magnification? I briefly considered popping the lenses out of a pair of sunglasses, but that just seemed too stupid. So, I hunted and hunted and FINALLY found a pair that works. Whew! Don't ever say that I don't take dressing up seriously...

After years of schooling, an end is finally in sight! I will be graduating in December, 2006. It's a bit more than a year away, but I'm already imagining a life with less textbooks and studying.

I thought about "retiring" at that time, but I've been having so very much fun playing with all of you that I can't imagine a life without regular visits to a well-equipped dungeon. So, I'll probably just pick one (or two) days a month for kinky fun, and continue seeing all my regulars and a few carefully-selected new clients.

But, that's far in the future. For now, I'm just going to continue muddling through my schooling, fitting in fun whenever I have time, and drinking lots of coffee!

Speaking of fun... Are you going to Folsom this weekend? I certainly am! I'm currently trying to decide on a sexy outfit...

Reclining Dominatrix...

I'm going to write about something a little different this time...

No, I'm not going to write about a new fetish of mine. No, I'm not going to describe some of the fantastic sessions I've had recently. And, it's not that I'm going to ramble about some of my favorite activities.

I'm going to talk about a television show. Surprised?

Due to a recent gift (thank you so much, D), I've been enjoying the seventh season of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. And... I must confess that I think it's one of the finer television shows ever created. See, you may have noticed that I am a rather strong-willed woman. Therefore, I find the constant barrage of weak, helpless female characters rather irritating. It seems that, on television, women are the victims and men the rescuers.

Buffy is like a breath of fresh air. The main character is a beautiful woman who is anything but a victim. Quite the contrary, she's a superhero! And... the dialogue is simply wonderful. But, the show is worth watching if for no other reason than to enjoy watching a hot woman kick ass.

Costumes

As you must know from reading my blog, I adore fetish clothing. But, did you know that I also love costumes?



I own quite a few different costumes, ranging from the common (secretary, schoolgirl, teacher) to the more obscure (reindeer, puppy, Catwoman). I've found that when I'm playing with people who enjoy role-playing, wearing an appropriate outfit just adds a bit of extra spice to the scene.

I just love putting on a knee-length tight skirt and a blouse and pretending to be a stern schoolteacher. I quite adore wearing a professional-appearing (but somewhat revealing) outfit, and giving my "employee" a lecture on good behavior. And, when it's Christmas, I've been known to play "Reindeer Games", which (of course) involves me putting antlers on someone, and hitting them with a crop.

Around Halloween, I can't even look at most costumes without creating some kinky scenario. I imagine being a naughty policewoman demanding supplication from motorists who are desperate to avoid tickets. I think of Snow White forcing her dwarven slaves to labor in mines. I fantasize about a French maid becoming tired of submitting to the lecherous demands of her boss, throwing down her feather duster, tying up her boss and exacting revenge!

I recently added some costumes to my Amazon.com wishlist that I found rather interesting... If you also like the idea of costume play, you should take a look. Go to Amazon.com, click on Wish List - and under "Find a Wish List" enter Adriana Merloit.

Curious if I already own a costume appropriate for the type of scene you're interested in? E-mail me and ask.

What don’t I love?

It occurred to me that all I’ve written lately is about what I love to do, and I haven’t really mentioned what I don’t enjoy… So, what don’t I like?
-People who come in for a session and when I ask them what their interests are, they say, “Whatever you want to do.” Please figure out at least three things that you’d like to try before booking a session.
-Brown/Roman showers. If you like, I’ll happily threaten to do these things, or go along with your fantasies regarding these activities, but I won’t do them for real.
-Anything unsafe. I won’t play without a safeword, I won’t make you drink out of the toilet, and I won’t suffocate you till you pass out.
-Extreme humiliation. I’m playfully cruel, not REALLY cruel. So, I won’t take away all your clothes and push you out the front door. I might, however, display you to my co-workers, if humiliation interests you…
-Blood play. I will not deliberately make you bleed.
-Anal strap-on play. (However, I think oral strap-on play is quite exciting.)
-Playing with people who are drunk or on drugs. Why? First off, it’s insulting. I think I’m plenty exciting/intoxicating without you needing to take additional stimulants. Secondarily, it makes it harder for me to read you, and figure out your limits.

Now... Since I don't like writing negative posts like this, here are two new pictures. They're not exactly what I was hoping for - I was trying to get a few pictures focused mostly on my shoes - but they're still worth posting.

Boots

There's just something amazingly sexy about thigh high boots, isn't there?



A few weeks ago, I was out running errands while wearing a pair of my favorite knee high boots, when I noticed a gentleman staring at my boots with a thoughtful expression on his face. I smiled knowingly, and had the most delightful time wondering just what was going on behind his enraptured eyes. Was he wishing that he could get on his knees and kiss the tight leather? Did he want to feel the heels of my boots on his nipples? Did he want me to peel off the boots so he could kiss my leather scented toes? Or, was he only admiring a lovely pair of boots on a stunning set of legs?



I suppose I'll never know exactly what he was thinking... But, imagining his thoughts was certainly an amusing diversion on an otherwise dull day. That's one of the reasons why I love being a dominatrix. I love delving into all of your dirty little fantasies, exploring your kinky desires, and figuring out your secret thoughts.

I just got some photos back from a recent photo shoot, and I now have a surplus of fantastic pictures of me in thigh high boots and not much else. I'm leaving for a brief vacation early tomorrow, but I'll get the pictures up here when I get back on Sunday.

I really want to start discussing how much I love my boots, but I suppose I'll save that to go along with the pictures.

OK... It’s time to have a serious talk. I’ve heard too many horror stories about crappy sessions with pseudo-dominatrixes.



So… You’re itching to get (or give) a spanking. How do you find a good professional dominatrix or switch?

It’s not as easy as you’d think. Not every “dominatrix” that advertises is actually experienced. Sure, she may SAY that she has ten years of professional experience in Europe, but she also claims to be 22… it’s sad, but true: people lie.

This is how to find a reputable, real dominatrix

Look at the ads. Every time you see a dominatrix that you find physically attractive, READ her ad to see if your basic interests are compatible. If so, write down her name and phone number.

---After you’ve compiled a list, go to a few review sites, such as www.sf-redbook.com or www.maxfisch.com or www.theeroticreview.com . Paying for these sites isn’t necessary, but if you really must have all the details, I recommend buying a subscription to Redbook. Yet, even without paying, you’ll still get basic details and ratings. If someone has consistently bad reviews, mark them off your list. One bad review may simply be a disgruntled client out to stir up trouble, but having mostly bad reviews is, quite obviously, a bad sign. This is also a good way to determine if someone who doesn’t show their entire face in photos (like me) is actually attractive. This is much more polite than e-mailing me and asking if having my hair over my face is my method of hiding an unattractive disfigurement!

---Finally, make your choice. If you’re really into something that the dominatrix didn’t mention, it’s a good idea send her an e-mail asking if it’s an activity that she enjoys.

I do have some reservations with reviews. Being rated on a 1-10 scale makes me feel a little bit like merchandise… BUT, I understand why it’s necessary, and it helps that all my reviews have been overwhelmingly positive. I’d rather be reviewed than have you go see an unskilled dominatrix and have an awful time.

OK?

Go forth and research!

Stockings

Is it the look? Long, lovely legs barely covered with sheer stockings?

Is it the feel? The smooth, whisper of silky softness against your skin?

Is it the smell? Do you long to smell and taste the stockings that are encasing my beautiful feet?

Whatever the motivation, I delight in sessions involving stocking worship.

These sessions can take many forms. I enjoy sensual stocking-focused sessions where the focus is upon me (and my stocking-clad legs, of course)… And, if you would like, I could bring in a few extra pairs of stockings so you can also feel the smooth silk against your skin.

Perhaps I’ll slip out of my shoes, and run my stocking-covered feet all over your body. Maybe I’ll have you kneel before me, and permit you to gently stroke my long legs. Or, if you’re focused on feet, I may allow you to taste and smell my toes…

Spanking



If you ask me what my favorite BDSM activities are, I’ll probably give you a list of about five things. This list frequently changes (preferences come and go), but for the last three years, I’ve always included spanking.

Why? It’s personal. It’s my hand on your ass. If I’m giving you an over-the-knee spanking, I can see you writhe… hear you moan… and, of course, I can feel your ass getting warmer and warmer as I spank you harder and harder.

It’s just plain erotic to see those ass cheeks get a rosy flush, then turn pink, then red. I simply love to watch the colors change! And, during long spankings, my hand will get a little sore and a bit tired. But, instead of making me want to stop and take a break – this makes me think: If my hand is sore, how must his ass feel? And that just makes me want to spank longer and harder.

I’ve noticed that many of the people who enjoy being spanked, also enjoy spanking others... This is something that I’m open to, as I adore the sensation of being spanked, but I won’t take a hard spanking: light to medium only.

Well, you may have noticed that I’ve begun updating this much more frequently. There are several reasons for this. Primarily, I wanted to provide you with a little more information about myself – and my preferences. Also, I had so much fun writing that bit about caning a few weeks back, that I decided to make it a regular practice. This week I decided to write about:

Sensation Play



Sensation Play is frequently dismissed as being “Vanilla BDSM”, but I must confess that I really love sensation play. So, you might ask, what exactly _is_ sensation play?

Well, to me, sensation play is taking a blindfolded submissive and… doing whatever I desire to them. Like many of my favorite activities, this can be nice, or it can be mean. It’s about simply letting go and enjoying the sensation of being completely helpless and totally under my control.

Sensation play involves a nice balance between pleasure and pain. To me, this form of BDSM is all about surrendering to sensation… It’s about allowing me to drip the hot wax on your body, then to soothe your skin with ice cubes. It’s about relaxing when I stroke your nipples, and moaning when I pinch them. Quite simply, it’s about having your senses overwhelmed.

Roleplaying



Roleplaying is such a delight! I love escaping into a role for an hour and playing with people who are excited by power exchange. I love almost all roleplays, but there are a few that are my very favorites… Perhaps you’ve been a bad employee who is willing to do anything to keep his job, even if it means submitting to be the plaything of your diabolical boss! What if you’ve been naughty, and Adriana the babysitter decides to overstep her bounds and give you a stern spanking to keep you in line? Or, maybe you’re a student who’s been caught harassing the girls one too many times… Principal Adriana will be certain to administer the necessary corrections! Or, let’s imagine that your ex-girlfriends paid me to kidnap you and teach you a thing or two about how to respect women. And, sometimes some domestic discipline is necessary to keep naughty little boys on the straight and narrow!

Whether it’s a lecture, a stern paddling with a hairbrush, or a disciplinary caning, I quite enjoy the intensity of roleplaying. Some of my better roleplaying sessions have been when people have brought in props, or lists of names they want me to use, or certain things they want me to say. I will do scripted sessions, but prefer spontaneity. I’m a very creative person and therefore am very skilled at these types of sessions!

Caning



Ah… the sound of a cane whistling through the air. The satisfying sound it makes when connecting with a quivering ass. Yes, I love caning. Now, if you’re terrified of marks, don’t fear – caning isn’t mandatory, nor does it have to necessarily leave marks. A cane is a surprisingly versatile toy.

Caning certainly can be extreme. A full swing on a nicely warmed-up submissive can be incredibly intense and leave a lovely welt. And…there are few things I like more than sending a submissive home with a beautiful set of neatly lined welts. Yet, a cane is more than about intensity… they can be used to deliver a tremendous variety of sensations.

Used lightly, the cane has a place in sensual sessions… When playing with subs without much desire for pain, I adore blindfolding them, caning them lightly several times, then running an ice cube over their ass to erase the sting.

Corsets

Did I mention that I love wearing corsets? Well, I do. I have quite a few: three leather, a few black and shiny, and several fabric. They're all different, the only similarity being (of course), the wonderful way that they look, and how fantastically powerful they make me feel.

There's something paradoxical about corsets, isn't there? It's strange that something so confining should make me feel so strong.

Ahh... latex. It's even fun to wear on sweltering summer days.

I'm delighted to announce that I will be returning to The Gates!  After a lengthy vacation, I'm ready and pleased to be returning, and very excited about playing with new people once again.

I've done some shopping lately, and I should mention that I have a leather cat mask...  leather thigh high boots...  leather shorts...  and a leather corset.  Anyone want to play Catwoman and helpless victim?



I look forward to playing with some new people...  and, of course, anyone that I've seen in the past!

This log is intended to answer any additional questions that you may have about me. I intend to update it occasionally, whenever I have new and exciting things to mention. If you have never seen a Dominatrix before, please pay careful attention to the Etiquette section. So, let me start by answering the questions I get asked most frequently...

Frequently Asked Questions:

--Why do you always have your face turned partially to the side in pictures?

I get asked this question occasionally, and some rather rude people have asked if it’s because I’m hiding some unattractive disfigurement. I quite simply hide my face because I have certain needs for discretion. We do not live in a kink-friendly environment. And, yes, I have both my eyes and no nasty scars (or boils) on my face. So, if you have a boil fetish, you are quite out of luck.

--With three years of professional experience, why haven’t you gone independent yet?

Quite honestly, I like working in a house. I have a busy schedule which would make it difficult for me to have regular phone hours. Additionally, working in a house makes it very easy for me to organize walk-ons and do double sessions. I do occasionally wish that I had more control (would I be a Dominatrix if I didn't want control? Hmmm...), but all in all, it's better for me to work out of a house.

--Who do you enjoy doing double sessions with?

That depends very much upon what type of session you are seeking. For a session with two powerful, tall and intense women, I work very well with the lovely Mistress Zara. Together, we exceed at cruel, playful sessions, or serious and intense sessions. I only enjoy double sessions if I have good personal chemistry with the other Mistress. So, if you're interested in a double with a different Mistress, do send me an e-mail first.

--What is the nicest compliment you’ve been given?

(OK, OK, no one has actually ever asked me this. But, I’ve received some very nice compliments, and this is a perfect place to repeat them.) A regular, masochistic client of mine recently called me a “creative and sweet sadist”. Another client once described me as “powerful, sensual and playful”.

--Do you accept gifts?

Yes! Thoughtful gifts are always greatly appreciated. I’m not fond of cut flowers, but I love gifts of books, gift certificates, chocolate, fetish clothes, fresh mozarella, DVDs, and plants. A hint: you can find books and movies that I like on my amazon.com wishlist (to find it, search using my e-mail address: mistressadriana@hotmail.com) and buy them at a local independent bookstore, like Pegasus.

--I can't afford a session with you. Will you barter?

I will consider barter, as long as you cover the dungeon rental fees. However, you have to offer me something that I actually want, and it must be somewhat comparable to the cost of the session. So, what do I want? Fetish clothes. Shoes. Books/DVDs. Latex sheeting. (I do NOT need a website/massage/cook/houseboy.)

--Do you accept tips?

Yes, but I don’t offer any extra services in exchange for tipping. A tip should be an expression of thanks for a great session, not a bribe for sexual services. Tips are not mandatory (if they were then it wouldn't really count as a tip) but you should really consider tipping if: the session exceeded your expectations, you were quite late, or you canceled your last session with very little notice.

Etiquette:

-Please bring the correct amount of money for the session or expect to leave the remaining amount as a tip. I do not have a cash register, and therefore I do not make change.

-Do not ask me for sex. I am a professional Dominatrix and do not offer any sexual services.

-If you send me e-mail, do not send me any pictures or attachments. I simply will not open them. Also, please attempt to use correct spelling and do not type in all caps.

-If you must be late or have to cancel an appointment, then it is very important to give me a call.

-Don't come early. We try very hard to keep our clients from accidentally meeting (would you want to run into your neighbor at a house of BDSM?), so if you come on time it helps us make certain that you won't see anyone besides me.

-If you are a novice, then carefully think about what you are interested in doing during the session before you call. Think of at least three activities that you are certain that you want to try and two activities that you are certain that you do NOT want to try.

-On the phone, mention what really want to happen during the session. For instance, don't tell the receptionist that you just want a spanking, then during negotiation ask for strap-on play. The receptionist asks what activities you want to get into to avoid booking sessions for me that include things that I don't do. To avoid wasting my time (and yours) be direct on the phone. And...

-Please be nice to our receptionist. She has to deal with crank callers, so please do not be excessively detailed with her (Can she whip me fifty times? What would my ass look like after being whipped 100 times?) or she might assume that you are aren't serious. She just needs the basics, not your entire life history.

-For first time clients, please be understanding and patient. Unfortunately there are quite a few people out there who book appointments, and then don’t show up. So, I must give priority to my regular clients. Once you're a regular client, you can book in advance.

-Come to the house dressed in normal clothing. If there is something special that you want to wear for the session, bring it with you in a bag.

(If there are any other etiquette questions that you have, please feel free to e-mail me and ask... )

More Information:

Still reading? Then listen to me ramble a bit…

I’ve been kinky for about ten years now. Like many people, I started as a submissive, then quickly realized that topping was great fun as well and I became a switch. I still switch, and find that experiencing both sides just makes BDSM more exciting. When I top, I know the excitement that the sub is feeling and it just makes the entire experience better. I do identify more as a top than a bottom, but I find both roles to be quite exciting.

I particularly love switch sessions. It’s always great fun to be punished for something and then turn the tables and get revenge. I’ll absolutely be a little meaner to you, than you were to me, but I’m certain that you deserve it…

When I take sub sessions, I really love playing with experienced dominants. It's a great way to learn new tricks and I really adore being put in intricate bondage. I'm also quite fond of working with novice dominants who want to learn more skills. I'm happy to "top from the bottom" to help them learn effective ways to dominate.

Even after three years of playing professionally, I keep discovering new and exciting forms of BDSM that I enjoy. My newest interest is in smoking. Even though I’m a non-smoker, I find it highly erotic to blow smoke in my helpless submissive’s face. I’m quite thrilled when I find people who also enjoy this. I have a very wide range of other interests as well, but you can find most of that information on The Gates website.

I recently read Venus in Furs and immediately went out and purchased several (fake) fur items. My question of the day is: Can I accomplish the cruel, icy dominatrix look while wearing fake fur? Or does my desire to not needlessly cause the death of cute fuzzy animals mean that I have to remain a "sweet sadist"? Hmmm... and if any of you masochists want to come in and play Severin and Wanda, I'd have a lovely time... Just e-mail me so I bring in my fake fur. "Severin, I am a frivolous young woman; it is dangerous for you to put yourself so completely in my power. You will end by actually becoming a plaything to me. Who will give warrant that I shall not abuse your insane desire?"

Are you _still_ reading? Then let me suggest a good book. If you've already read Venus in Furs, try Little Birds by Anais Nin. It's beautifully written and very erotic, but doesn't have much BDSM content. The 43rd Mistress is a nice book and I do enjoy the session descriptions, but I didn't feel that it was overly realistic. With that kept in mind, it's a good read. And for a simply excellent book that's only a little erotic (in a few, small parts) I suggest The Ground Beneath Her Feet by Rushdie. An excellent read.